May
17

From Upset to Uplift

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While reading an article by Eugene D. Holden with this title, I thought, what a message for caregivers and their loved one!  We frequently find ourselves in this predicament.    One or the other of us is angry or crying.  We both want to uplift the other.  Elbert Hubbard said, “If I can uplift or inspire, let it be by example, inference, and suggestion.” 

To move from one to the other, we need to choose to change!  Nothing changes if nothing changes.  We need to take action steps to make our upside down world better. 

Check out the new booklet – Self Care for Caregivers: 161 Tips to Make Your Life Easier,  by going to http://www.JoyGolliver .com.  Choose any tip that makes sense to you and take ACTION. 

In caring, Joy

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May
10

Quotes

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Do you love to collect quotes?  I do.  Today I share some of my favorites.  Cut them out; paste them on your mirror or in your journal. 

“You can love other people only to the degree that you’ve come to love and accept yourself.”  Shakti Gawain

“Work as if you don’t need the money/Dance as if no one is looking/Love as if you have never been hurt.  Anonymous

“Your life is not a problem to be solved, but a gift to be opened.”  Wayne Muller author of How Then Shall I Live.

“There is no cure for birth or death save to enjoy the interval.”  George Santayana

“Patience makes lighter what sorrow may not heal.”  Horace

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Categories : [patience, journal, quotes
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May
03

Elijah’s Coin

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A fascinating book on paying it forward that will capture your attention.  “Elijah’s Coin: A Lesson for Life,” was written by Steve O’Brien.  It is the story of a man named Tom Wagner who is on the journey of his life when he meets a mentor named Elijah King during his first robbery attempt.  The book takes many twists and turns in this easy to read novel.  Through Elijah, Tom eventually learns how one person can make a difference, and together with others, change the world.” 

The book comes with two of Elijah’s coins, one to keep and the other to give away.  It received 5 stars on Barnes and Nobel and 6 stars on Amazon.com.  I encourage you to buy it today.  Check out our Amazon store. 

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Categories : books, community service
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Apr
26

Give and Receive

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“The Giver is always giving, and yet it needs a receiver to complete its circuit of circulation.  Are you a receiver?  We must learn to give and receive.”  That statement is by Lloyd Tupper, OurAbundantLife.com.

When you are a caregtiver it seems like you are always giving, and giving, and giving.  And you make the ill person take, and take, and take.  Neither feels good about what is happening, and some of us get downright angry about it.  Receivers who are ill feel guilty for having to be taken care of.  They want to help out in some way.  Caregivers need the chance to be on the receiving end once in a while. 

Two things need to take place.  One: agree that you are Care Partners in this experience.  You are on the journey together and each has a role to play. Two: Caregivers need to ASK for help and ACCEPT help from friends and family because they want to be in the giving role and you need to receive their help.  How do you ask?  Be specific about what you want.  “Can you take the car and have it washed and gassed up?”  Can you stay with Jim while I run to the grocery?  I will be gone 2 hours max.”  Both of you will receive the JOY of being givers and receivers.  Try it, it works!

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Categories : caregiver support, give
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Apr
19

Caregiver Truths

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Anne Lamott has written a book, “Traveling Mercies.”  In it she says that her most popular prayers are, “Help me, help me, help me” and “”Thank you,  thank you, thank you.”  Sounds like the caregivers prayer.

She also has a wonderful quote:  “All you can do is show up for someone in crisis.  Your there-ness … can be life giving, because often everyone else is in hiding.” 

Ain’t it the truth.  If you are a friend of a caregiver …. SHOW UP, the Caregiver already has!

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Joy Golliver
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Author of "Self Care for Caregivers: The Most Important Person in the Experience is YOU!"
and "Self Care for Caregivers: 161 Tips to make your life easier."
I have co-authored: "Tips, Tools, and Resources for The Second Half of Life."
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The meaning of life is finding your gift.
The purpose of life is giving it away."

Joy Golliver